In a new book, an Iowa mom explains why she didn’t have to worry about the cost of her first baby until she was an adult.
“I thought, ‘What is going on here?'” says the unnamed woman, who also spoke to The Associated Press on condition of anonymity to avoid retaliation.
“But I just kept doing it.”
She says she didn, too.
She said she started her first pregnancy as a new mom to two girls, ages 8 and 12.
She says that when she was 14, she gave birth to a healthy baby boy, who she says she now feels a “spiritual connection” to.
Her baby, she says, is a “natural born citizen” because he was born on her birthday, which was July 7.
“The more I did this, the more I realized that it’s just a natural process,” the woman said.
“And as long as we can do it naturally, then we can move forward.”
In the book, “When a Woman’s Baby Crys: A Story of How I Helped My Baby Be a New American Citizen,” the unidentified woman says she started the pregnancy as her first of two boys, who were born the same day.
She had already started dating at the time, and the couple were married a year later.
The book includes accounts of her pregnancy, and she says her pregnancy was stressful, as her husband, a physician, was battling cancer.
“We would get a call, and I would be crying,” she says.
“My husband would get up and he’d be crying because it was a hard day for him.
And then I’d say, ‘I just want to cry,’ and he would be like, ‘Oh my God, I just want you to cry, you’re so beautiful, you know, so strong, you have a beautiful body, you look beautiful, and you have such a lovely smile.'”
In addition to her anxiety, the woman says her husband suffered from depression, as well as postpartum depression and anxiety.
“It was really difficult,” she said.
The couple’s son was born just three months later.
She recalls, “I had a feeling that I was going to lose my baby.
And I didn’t know how I was supposed to deal with it.”
When she started to feel better, the couple began to conceive again.
“They were a little bit late to the party, and we just felt like we had to wait for them,” she recalls.
“That’s when we got married, and everything happened so fast.”
When they finally conceived, she said they were surprised to find out that the fetus was healthy.
“At first, we didn’t think it was,” she adds.
While the couple waited for their second child, the mother says she also became more involved with the cause she loves most, raising money for breast cancer research. “
Because it was so young, we just kind of assumed it was not a healthy one.”
While the couple waited for their second child, the mother says she also became more involved with the cause she loves most, raising money for breast cancer research.
“When we were looking to raise money for the breast cancer community, I thought, You know what?
I’m going to do it for this cause, because it’s my favorite cause, and because I have a family and we’re raising children,” she writes.
The woman says that after her second pregnancy, she was able to see a doctor to discuss treatment options.
She decided to give up on the birth plan because she had trouble finding treatment, and began looking for a more affordable option.
“There were a lot of websites that said that breast cancer was the best treatment for it, and that was so wrong, because we knew that it was an extremely difficult and dangerous disease,” she explains.
“To me, the best thing that could have happened is for us to have waited a little while longer.”
“I wanted to do this for my family,” she continued.
“You know, for my son.
And for the other people who are suffering from this disease.”
After the third pregnancy, the women says they had two more children, ages 11 and 12, and they continue to support breast cancer advocacy and other causes.
The women say they have been able to balance their busy schedule with their two kids, and are now looking for another child to raise.
They say they’re also starting a new career.
“For us to be able to have children, we need a job,” she notes.
“So we’re hoping that we can just find another job.
We don’t want to be unemployed.”